Strictly speaking, the term ‘anal play’ means any kind of sexual activity which uses the rectum, bum or anus whilst anal intercourse is more particularly concerning anal intercourse or penetration. Although anything regarding the rear end with respect to sex can still be viewed as an off limits area, anal play is on the increase not only among the gay society but additionally between heterosexual men and women.

For anyone who is inquisitive about any element of anal play or anal lovemaking and you want to pursue it more deeply it is vital to initially discuss it with your significant other and make certain that they view it the same. If your loved one is forced into it whilst not being entirely at ease then it will almost certainly wind up being a chore for the both of you. In order to reduce any stress and anxiety you might be sensing there are a number of aspects to consider before embarking on any sort of anal play.

Types of Anal Play

It could be a good idea to investigate different avenues connected with anal play before you decide to rush right in with anal sex. Different kinds of non-penetrating anal practises for example include touching the anus using fingertips as well as other areas of the body and licking the anus (known commonly as rimming). You may also elect to enter the rectum by using butt plugs or fingers, bearing in mind to initially gently pull apart the buttocks in order to stretch out the anal entrance for much easier penetration.

Anal Pleasure

Where specifically are the pleasure areas? The largest concentration of nerve endings in the human body (surpassing the quantity located in the vagina or the penis) happens to be within the entrance of the anus causing this to be one of the crucial elements to discover more about. The internal wall of the anus also responds well to any form of force placed on it. It’s in here that the male prostate gland and the tip of the female interior clitoral body can be aroused.

Relax

Are you ready for anal love-making? As with any kind of intercourse, it’s important to try and stay as laid back as you possibly can. The more stressed you are, the much less stimulating the intercourse is going to be. If it is feeling good then keep going however, if it’s bringing about discomfort there’s a chance you’re doing something incorrectly. Do not force the issue. Take a couple of deep breaths, try to remain calm and begin once more. Speaking in general terms, the more calm that you are, the greater your personal experience will undoubtedly be.

Stay Safe and Lubricate

It’s extremely important to remember that unlike the vagina, the rectum doesn’t formulate any of its own naturally occurring lubrication which makes anal lubes a definite must-have to help avoid otherwise uncomfortable and painful anal love-making. Also, the inner lining of the anus may become damaged very easily. To avoid any damage from happening, fingernails should be kept short and totally free of any kind of sharp ends – rounding them off using a nail file is definitely a good option. With respect to anal toys, employing anal plugs or anal vibes that come with flared bases will prohibit the sex toys from going up too far in the event your grip is lost. In addition, if you’re using anal beads, try to select the ones that feature a retrieval cord at the bottom.

Keeping Clean

Probably the most essential aspect to consider when contemplating any kind of anal play is always to stay clean. Potentially harmful bacteria which are contained in the rectum might cause difficulties if they touch the vagina therefore be sure whatever comes into contact with the rectum doesn’t make contact with the vaginal area straight after. In addition, be certain that any sort of sexual aids employed in anal play are always wiped clean extensively afterwards (preferably using an anti-bacterial adult toy cleaning agent) in order to avoid the spread of an infection. Make sure that your hands and fingers are also wiped clean thoroughly prior to and following any anal activities and always utilise fresh condoms.

With Christmas coming up it’s nearly that dreaded time of year when you have to start thinking about what gifts to get. This can be especially difficult when it comes to getting the perfect present for your partner. Why not do something a little different and get a sexy gift that can be used over and over again that you can share with your partner or that they can use alone? This guide to the best in sexy gifts will set you in the right direction.

1. We Vibe 2

The award winning We Vibe 2 is a flexible vibrator in the shape of a C which has two small vibrators in each end that provide nine different levels of vibration and pulsation at the touch of a button. Suitable as a sex toy for couples or for individual use, this vibrator is guaranteed to hit the right spot every time!

2. Amour Be Mine Cuddle Massage Kit

The perfect present to give to a female, this kit comprises of a cute fluffy white teddy bear, a 4 inch long multispeed vibrator with 3 interchangeable tips and a bottle of massage oils with added pheromones. This kit is ideal for sharing sensual moments with your partner.

3. Razzle Dazzle Gift Set

The Razzle Dazzle Gift Set is just the thing when it comes to sharing at Christmas and beyond that. The erotic 3 piece black set contains a 6 inch long multispeed waterproof vibrator with a diamante encrusted base, a fluffy feather tickler and a pair of naughty metal handcuffs. It comes boxed with a beautiful satin lining.

4. Bedroom Commands

If you’re searching for a game with a sexy twist then Bedroom Commands is ideal. It’s a card game intended for two players with 108 cards (54 for men and 54 for women) that are guaranteed to bring variety and spice to your sex life. What could be better!

5. Pleasure Ring Collection

The Pleasure Ring Collection is a set four different stretchy jelly cock rings, all of which have pleasure nodules on the outside which serve to stimulate the female partner when worn by the male. Keeping the man harder for longer, these pleasure cock rings help both partners to have better sex.

6. Diamond Red G-Spot Vibrator

This waterproof multispeed vibrator comes with a specially curved tip which makes finding the female g-spot a whole lot easier! It also comes with a diamante encrusted base, easy to operate controls and a 7 inch long, 1 inch wide diameter. That g-spot will no longer be elusive when this vibe is in use!

7. Fleshlight Pink Lady Super Ribbed

Exclusively for men, this male masturbator has super soft real feel skin, a vaginal opening moulded on a real vagina and a super ribbed canal for intense feelings with each and every stroke. It can also be removed from its black torch style casing and washed ready for the next use.

8. Stimul8 Pure Lube Waterbased – 50ml

This water-based lubricant makes all of your sexual experiences far easier and more pleasurable. Kind on the skin, Stimul8 Pure Lube is also not sticky or tacky, fragrance free, latex condom compatible and lasts for as long as you need it to.  It can also be used as a massage lotion.

9. Knitted Willie Warmer

A novelty present is a great way to add a little bit of fun to proceedings. The red Knitted Willie Warmer comes as a hat and scarf set for the manhood keeping him warm on even the coldest of winter nights!

10. Skins Condoms Assorted 12 Pack

Last but not least, stay safe whilst adding a bit of variety to intimate moments with this pack of Skins Condoms which contains 4 natural, 4 dots and ribs and 4 ultra thin.

For further information about all of the above products and more ideas for an ultra sexy Christmas, visit the Temptations Direct Adult Christmas Shop.

If you are about to embark  in a sexual relationship for the first time or you are already sexually active but are not aware of all of the forms of contraception that are available, this article can be used as a handy and informative guide. The right form of contraception can help to keep you safe and prevent unwanted pregnancies. The most common forms that are available are as follows:

Condoms

A popular choice when it comes to staying safe, condoms are usually made of latex and act as a barrier between two partners during intercourse. They help to greatly reduce the risk of catching an STI (sexually transmitted infection) and when being used regularly there is only a very slender chance of the condom splitting, which may in some cases lead to pregnancy. They have elastic properties and are waterproof and durable. Condoms are available in a number of different guises including ultra thin, flavoured, ribbed and dotted. They can be used for penetrative intercourse as well as for oral pleasures.  Female condoms are also available.

The Contraceptive Pill

Also known as the combined oral contraceptive pill (COCP), the contraceptive pill or the pill for short is a method of birth control that uses a combination of hormones to inhibit fertility when taken every day.  Although not a method of preventing the spread of STIs, the pill can regulate and often lighten periods and is thought to reduce the risk of ovarian cancer. However, if the contraceptive pill is not remembered to be taken, this can lead to pregnancy.  The mini-pill (POP) can also be taken orally and is recommended for those who should not use the full pill – for example, older women, diabetics and women whose blood pressure has gone up on the pill.

Contraceptive Coils

Contraceptive coils (or intrauterine devices – IUDs) are usually used by young women who have had babies.  Fitting inside the womb, the IUD is only the length of a matchstick and helps to inhibit pregnancy by preventing sperm from getting through the womb and into the tubes, making the womb lining less able to accept an egg and altering secretions in the cervix thus creating an additional barrier for sperm.  Although they do not prevent STIs, they have a 98% effectiveness rate when it comes to birth control. The only notable drawback is that periods may become heavier.

Contraceptive Injection

Lasting for approximately three months, the contraceptive injection (usually injected into a muscle in the backside) contains hormones to help act against pregnancy becoming a reality by inhibiting ovulation. The good thing about having this injection is that unlike the contraceptive pill you do not have to remember to keep taking it. However, it does not prevent the transference of sexual infections and is not recommended for use by women who suffer from migraines.

Skin Patch

Only used by approximately 1% of women, the skin patch, also known as Evra, is an effective external version of the contraceptive pill which you stick onto the skin and works by releasing hormones that stop you from getting pregnant. As with most contraceptive methods this self-adhesive patch (which must be changed every seven days) does come with possible side effects including headaches, nausea and symptoms that are similar to flu. This method does not act as a barrier to STIs.

Withdrawal Method

Used by approximately 4% of the population, the withdrawal method is usually used by young couples or by people who do not use typical methods of contraception. It involves the male partner pulling out before ejaculation. This technique is considerably more risky than traditional forms of contraception if withdrawal is not done early enough and it doesn’t prevent the spread of STIs. However, this method is better than not doing anything at all.

Whatever method of contraception you may wish to investigate, it is always best to discuss it with your partner and speak to your doctor first to make sure that you are familiar with all of the possible side effects.

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