My first really serious sexual partner got me into tie ‘n’ tease as a kind of foreplay and I have become absolutely hooked since that time. I did not realize how unsatisfied I had been having “regular” sexual activities right until I came to be a piece of this unique exciting community. Additionally I became at ease with a selection of adult toys. I experienced one or two uncomfortable things along the route however, now realise how to make BDSM free from danger, rational, not to mention consensual. Keep reading to help get the very best satisfaction available out of your personal sex life.

First of all, it is very important for bondage games to be done in a means that is definitely risk-free. Persons have been killed or ended up harmed due to bondage play gone wrong. As a result, the BDSM sub-culture utlises a code of basic safety. Make certain you coupled with sexual partner (and / or companions) have a safe term. Stop the play if anyone utters the safe word. Should the game involve no speaking typically, always make sure that another sign to finish is determined upfront. Several other helpful hints are usually commonsense: never leave the tied man or woman on their own, sanitise any adult toys before and following their use, and assure the bondage gear won’t impede inhaling and exhaling.

You can easily lose sense of time during the course of games, my personal record (and regrettable learning curve) turned out to be eight hours of being tied up. Nowadays I appreciate to halt every few hours to consume food and / or drink a little something as well as, move around. Bondage is also genuinely pleasurable without having drugs or booze, a number of people believe getting high or even intoxicated makes the whole undertaking unclear and very much less electrifying. For a start, I used to get a great hum on the go so as to become fearless enough to play, particularly with companions I didn’t know very well, though discovered I enjoy tie and tease a whole lot more sober. The sexual excitement that comes through being domineering and / or submissive certainly is the true substance to me.

I routinely take part in straight intercourse, and i’m a sub about 50 % of the duration and domineering for the other fifty percent. There are plenty of great BDSM toys and equipment which will improve the overall experience. Costumes are one approach to take, I have been every thing from a schoolgirl to a police woman. A uniform really can assist me enter into and savour my personal role. I really like whips and paddles and to be bound by using smooth silk scarves. Wrist cuffs are actually simple enough to go somewhere with if you’re planning on vacation and may require some equipment. I suggest employing a back-up key in those types of circumstances, another lesson uncovered early on!

Whilst adult toys and equipment manufactured for bondage are definitely the simplest to make use of, well-known household goods can be employed in an instant. A tie is actually a very useful means to bind wrists and hands and also tie somebody to the bed. Candle lights tend to be a component of quite a few romantic night times, night times that can emerge as much more spicy when you use a little bit of hot wax. A standard spatula can be used to strike anybody that’s tied up, or a feather boa may be used to tease and tickle. A tight fitting skirt can be used to minimize mobility, actually a number of common items of clothing can be employed in this way. The only limit will be your own imagination. When you put your imagination to it, the same as I have done, you will think of boundless options with regard to belongings all round your home.

When you are dating somebody new, I have discovered it is best to speak directly regarding my bondage expectations. I really do this for self centred reasons partially, I really want out of there early on if the individual is much too shy and uptight to take part. I’ve had people curious but nevertheless, cautious, in many cases. If that’s so, I have tested out very basic ideas to understand how they will behave. Since I’ve been practising bondage, I have met some of the most captivating people and had excitement, yet safe, erotic activities. What are people hanging around for? Get some bondage toys and equipment and start!

Items made of natural latex need to be looked after in order to keep them in pristine condition. This simple yet informative guide to latex clothing – how to get it on, how to care for items, how to keep items protected plus more useful tips – will help you to get the most out of your latex experience.

Getting latex clothing on

The vast majority of latex clothing is made out of moulded natural latex. Here liquid rubber is poured into a mould to create seamless items. These moulded latex items are often thicker than glued latex equivalents therefore making them more resistant to tearing or splitting. However, latex clothing is very tight fitting acting almost as a second skin. Consequently to get latex-wear on without splitting or tearing the latex it is best to apply either talcum powder or a silicone based lubricant to the inside of the item so that it does not stick to the skin when trying on. Pull the item on gently taking care not to snag it on fingernails or jewellery. Also ensure that your skin is dry and remember that it’s just as important to take the same amount of care when taking latex clothing off as you do when putting it on. 

Caring for latex clothing after wear

After wearing latex items wipe them clean with warm soapy water. Ensure that all soap is removed and then hang to drip dry. To make sure that the garment is sufficiently dry and does not stick together turn inside out to finish off the drying process. Do not attempt to wash latex clothing in the washing machine or dry items on a radiator as this will more than likely result in melting!

Adding shine

When you purchase latex items the latex is dull which can be misleading as latex clothing is usually pictured as being shiny. To give latex items a shiny finish the use of a rubber shiner is highly recommended. After applying a small amount of rubber shiner to garments buff the surface of the latex with a soft cloth for an effective overall shine. Silicone based rubber shiners also help you to get into latex-wear more easily and to keep your garments in pristine condition for longer.

Prolonging the life of latex clothing

To extend the life of latex clothing and keep it from degrading for as long as possible keep it in a dry, dark place (a cupboard or a drawer for example) away from direct sunlight, moisture and heat. It is also important to store items at room temperature. If they are too cold it will prove more difficult to get them on as they will be less supple. As an added measure of protection (although this isn’t essential), add talcum powder to your latex clothing and wrap up in tissue paper in an air tight sealed bag before placing into a cupboard or drawer.

Do not use if…

If you have any known allergies to latex DO NOT use any latex products. It could cause severe illness.  

For more information on latex clothing for women and latex clothing for men go to Temptations Direct.

A. What’s kinky? That sounds interesting.
B. Kinky as a corkscrew!
C. Kinky is as kinky does!
D. I’m so kinky you’d have to gag me, tie me up, and spank me to stop me talking about how kinky I am!

If your answer to the question in the title was any of the above selections, then you’re in the right place!

Whether you are already an enthusiastic practitioner of bondage or just indulging a shy curiosity that may or may not lead you down the kinky pleasure path, it’s my pleasure to welcome you to our community. I invite you to check us out and learn if we suit your needs.

Here at this site, we’re practiced at being a good, healthy community. See, it’s a little known secret outside these circles of BDSM friends, neighbours, and companions that a bondage community is well versed in listening to each other. Learning each other’s needs, wants, and desires takes practice at listening to what our partners are saying or not saying. We have to be able to communicate with each other to establish boundaries and negotiate what we’re willing to give each other.

Many people have an incomplete picture of what bondage games entail. Sure, some of us like to be tied up and gagged, others like to be flogged or spanked. Some of us like to take orders and some of us like to give orders. There are defined roles in our community, such as: master/slave, top/bottom, dominant/submissive, and switches. These are established through discussion and consensus between partners before any bondage games take place.

Maybe our community caught your eye because you have a private longing that traditional orthodox means don’t allow you to discuss or fulfil your needs in a conventional manner. Maybe your partner wants to try something and you’re investigating to decide how comfortable you are with what your partner has asked of you. There are all kinds of reasons to be in our corner of the Internet.

It’s all right to come into this world that might seem strange or different and check us out. Maybe you want to lurk to see what bondage games are all about. Maybe you have a few questions. Maybe you’re ready to find a partner and try a few things. In any case, you’ll discover that we’re a community that plays games with our partners because we trust each other to respect our boundaries and in the process bring each other pleasure through sex or other activities that are agreed upon between partners.

Coming into this community doesn’t obligate you to do anything that you don’t want to do. So if you have a kink you want to try out, whether it’s an itty bitty barely curved arc or as twisty as a roller coaster with six loopty-loos and lots of screaming in delight, you’ll discover that our community can be as kinky as you want.

Come on in and get the respect, bondage games, and kink you deserve!

For more information on what kinky activities there are download the bondage and BDSM checklist and don’t forget to see what bondage gear including soft bondage restraints is available.

Okay, this definitely falls in the category of “how on earth did they get away with that?”

Sophie Allen (aka Mistress Tia) has been hiring out the local village hall at Water Upton in Shropshire for video bondage sessions with her slaves. Great idea, but I think she may have shot herself in the foot by openly admitting it on a website (that bit falls in the category of “stupid”).